{Momma Love Series}
Today's Guest Blogger is a special one in my life.
Crazy story...we grew up together...
stopped seeing each other for over 10 years and the day we reunited...
it was like NOTHING had ever changed.
We picked up where we left off,
only now we weren't 13 year old's trying to find our way...
instead we were soon to be Momma's and Wives...
We then ended up pregnant in the same year... yes.
Funny I know. It's God. He's awesome like that.
She then became a Momma for the second time and I became a first time Momma...
only this time we vowed to never be apart again...
we would remain friends for a lifetime...
and never miss out on the amazing work that God has done and will do in our lives!
My long-time, long-lost, Bestie...'Bon....
{Guest Blogger}
Somehow I don’t think that being
a momma for the first time isn’t ever quiet the way that you expect it to be.
One of my most loved momma friends dreamt of the day that she would be pregnant,
she couldn’t wait for the glow and experience; only to now tell me (on baby #2)
she absolutely hates being pregnant “its.the.worst.thing.ever.”
As for me, a momma of two I can
tell you with out a shadow of a doubt it was never what I thought it would be.
My first baby came when I was a young 17. And during the whole time it was
mostly one thing- scary. It was my
mom and her friends that put the fear into me. They would go about and tell
stories about how much it would hurt and how I should not get the epidural
because of all the horrible things it would do to me! In the end I’m sort of
happy they scared me so much.
I was so naive that I didn’t even
know when I was in labor, I walk into a Dr. appointment for a check-up, only
for the nurse to freak out when she realized that I was in fact 4 centimeters
dilated! I arrived at the hospital at noon and had Christian Alexander Pozo
just before 6pm, on November 4th 1996. No epidural (hello I could be
paralyzed!!) no real meds of any kind. I laid there waiting for that horrible
moment that all my moms’ friends talked about and well…I never really felt. I take that back, by the time the real
pain hit for me it was hum too late.
So Christian came in an ole’ fashion kinda of way.
Having Chris at such a young age,
I didn’t know what to expect so there is no way to tell you if raising him has
been what I thought it would be! I know this, I’d be lost with out my little
man. He changed my world and turned it right.side.up. With out him I’d hate to
think about what kind of life style I would have ended up with. He set my
priorities straight, and made me into a hard working momma, wanting at all
times what would be best for him, slowly realizing that to give him the best,
I’d have to give it to my self as well. Chris has shown me LOVE, unconditional
love that runs deep…
When Jose (my now hubby) came into my life, it was Chris and
I rolling solo for 8 years or so. AND when Jose and I began buying our house
and planning our wedding, planning our future, it became clear that a little
one needed to become part of our family. I had been so sure for so long that it
would always be just Christian, that the thought of having another baby (yes
Chris is still my baby) was well – scary
again. Of course for different kinda of reasons, I wasn’t sure my health
was in the right place, being over weight, and being border line diabetic AND not being a young 17!!! Plus I
didn’t know if I could LOVE another baby like I love Christian. I knew only
that it was something that my husband and I wanted, to make our family
complete. Then began the challenge of my health, honestly I was very luck. I
went off my beloved pill, began to eat right and exercise, and three months
later- TADA! I was preggers!! Just a few months before our wedding! Needless to
say we have a habit of doing things upside down and backwards.
This pregnancy was a challenge, early on I decided I wanted
to learn as much as I could and do what felt right for me so I turned midwifery.
YUP. I knew that this is what felt right for me. I was 13 years older and still
over weight but I decided that if the first time around wasn’t a horror story
then this time wouldn’t be either. I continued to eat right and take care of my
self and lost weight through-out my pregnancy. Thankfully it all paid off. This
time around I would not be so naive.
The day Hailey was born I woke up and knew right away I was
indeed in labor. I didn’t say anything to my husband figuring –
1. He would only freak out.
2. I’d be in labor for a while and he should just go to work
first.
My son was at home with me and I
didn’t want him to freak out either. SO I kept it to my self and began to nest.
I picked up and washed and cleaned a little. By noon my contractions picked up
and I called the hubby wrapped up things at work and come home. He must have
thought I sounded too relaxed because he didn’t come home till 4. AHHHH! By
then contractions had kicked into over drive and it was time to head to the
hospital. As we waited to hear back from my midwife, we went for a quick walk
down the street! My crazy idea, for some reason I felt less pain moving around.
Finally we made it to the hospital just around 5:30 – got settled in a room by
6 and again my midwife was quite surprised to find out that I was indeed 7
centimeters dilated…
November 24th 2009, Hailey Tirado,
was born just before 7pm,
13 years 20 days and 1 hour after her big brother. NO drugs and none needed. It
was what I expected it to be and into my arms arrived the one thing I was
uncertain of, more LOVE. Another heaping load of LOVE that I never knew was
possible...
I had no idea what to expect having
a girl; she is a whirl-wind of unexpectedness. This little pile of love is an
energy packed firecracker that melts our hearts and drives us crazy and in
about a 5 minute cycle all day long. AND what is it like having a 14yr old and
a 22 month old? Well some days I feel torn between my teenager as we talk about
school, football and his future and on the flip side I am coloring and singing
ABC’s! The amazing thing is that Hailey has a 6ft+ older brother that flies her
through the house on his shoulders and never minds grabbing every pillow in the
house to build a fort big enough for the two of them!!
I am blessed and I know
more now than ever that even though having the two so far apart sounds nutty, God knew it would work for us.
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