Wednesday, July 20, 2016

::10 Things I have gained in the Mujeres de HACE Latinas in Leadership Program::


::momma disclosure:: I did receive a partial scholarship for the Mujeres de HACE Latinas in Leadership program and all opinions and statements expressed here are my own and honest. 




I am going to sound a little Academy Award-ish, starts acceptance speech... "I would like to thank God."  But all jokes aside really, I am very, VERY thankful for the opportunity to be part of the Houston HACE cohort. It was one of those things that I applied for and never thought I would get into. I am very fortunate to have a Husband who is always supportive {after some rational thought and long drawn out conversations about pros and cons to the program, HA. } of the program and me attending. Finally, I am also fortunate to have had so many wonderful women in my circle who pushed me, motivated me and messaged me with true words of positive support to just go for it and participate. As well as the support of my current employer which was also key and highly  important.

This opportunity was not taken in vain and I have been taking every week in and fully embracing every moment. I have been very vulnerable and emotional in most of the classes. We are coming to the end of the 4-month program with graduation being just around the corner and I wanted to give you a recap of what I have gained so far.



I have gained the following from going through this program:

::New lasting Professional connections::

Yes, my network is extensive after almost 18 years of career building experience, but to really get to know some of those connections is not the same. In this group, I am meeting, like-minded career-driven women but also very professional high ranked women. Those of whom I am learning from and connecting on a very personal level. It helps create very lasting professional friendships which are important to my career as I advance. In addition, these new connections can then become mentors and advisors along the way. 

::A bigger circle of support::

As the years have gone by and jobs have come and gone, I have gained one or two people within my professional support system. With HACE I am gaining a support group of over 10 ladies. All of who are working professional Latinas or working Mommas which makes me so happy. Their life experiences all come together in one room every other week and we learn so much from one another and can support and help one another as the months have gone by. 

::Skill set to move forward::

Yes, I have plenty of good skills that I have acquired over almost 18 years of working in corporate America. But the skills being learned in the Mujeres de HACE Leadership course go far deeper than learned skill sets. They combine those technical skills with experience and professional development. The combination is an eye-opener for sure.  I have in the past months been exposed to deeper levels of self-awareness, emotions, and topics that I don't think I have really been able to develop over the years. Yes, we learn how to be professional and handle certain situations. But now, I feel like I have learned a better way to handle myself and my emotions so that I can not only overcome situations but take control of them and move upward in my career. 


::Confidence to gain in the workplace::

One of those "skills" that I have gained in past years has been confidence. What I know now that was missing is boldness and the assertiveness to know what I am worth and my value. These concepts have added to my level of confidence when it comes to speaking about certain topics in the workplace and when it comes to handling how I want my career to move forward. HACE through the series of classes allows you to be inspired by other like-minded Latinas who have been able to boldly take control of their careers and advance. It's such a wonderful skill-set to develop. 

::Inner Strength::

When I came to this program I knew that I was a "strong" person. Life and work have made me this way. But, listening to the speakers in our course, those strong Latina's who have overcome so many types of adversity and obstacles to be where they are, has created a deeper sense of inner strength within me. More than I knew I had. Just the ability to overcome and mindset to push forward and fight for what I know I deserve and am capable of. I try to push myself daily to do better, to correct my wrongs, and with the HACE program, it has helped create a refresher as to why I do what I do and why I have come so far.




::New Girlfriends::

The women I have met in this course are not only classmates or career peers, they have become good friends. I know that I can confide in them, trust them and ask them for advice. In return, I have been there for some of the ladies who simply need a listening ear. Building friendships is important to professional Latina's who at times might feel like the odds are against or who may feel the world is out to get them. Building one another up and providing good genuine friendships is so important. 

::Better Understanding of myself::

As stated before, the course was an eye-opener. I have taken many personality tests and talked to several life/professional coaches now. But, I feel that speaking to them on a professional level and in a more established setting has helped create a different perspective. In the past, I have been in not-so-good professional setting or place in my career. Right now I feel settled, and as if though thriving in this current place is necessary. What helps is that the setting is just that, professional. It has helped better understand myself as a career Momma. 

::A different perspective of others in the workplace::

The best advice so far has been to not take things personally in the workplace. I know that this has been said to me before but with listening to so many professional women in the last 3 months, this has become far clearer. Yes, you spend a lot of time at your job and you want to do well and succeed. But, at the end of the day, we don't truly know everyone we work with and taking things personal or home with you after 8 hours of work, is not good. We are all here to do a job. Regardless of our personal feelings, we should all have one goal in mind, doing what is required to complete our assigned daily tasks. I know that some people do better than others within a workplace. But, truly being the bigger person gives you the upper hand. My perspective has shifted and I want to do well. Not just to gain a paycheck every 2-weeks but because I want to have a long lasting a good career. 

::New outlook on my career::

With this new perspective, the better more enhanced skill-sets, it gives me new hope and a new goal for my career. The desire to do well where I am for my overall career advancement and that doesn't mean I need to be promoted or moved up, sometimes good growth within a position or lateral moves can also create good shifts in your career. Being happy and open to what's coming. Embracing change and loving my job, it's what I want and strive for. Sure, there will be bad days, nothing is perfect. But, constantly seeking to do well for yourself and your future within a company has never really been a set goal of mine. In the past, I have had great positions where I have obtained promotions but it was almost always about the money and making more to provide for my family. Where I am now, sure money is needed to provide for my family but my true goals have changed and I don't think that's a bad thing. 

::Further Confirmation that I am following the right path::

If you have been following my blog for some time or know me personally you will know that in the past I have not been happy with my jobs. My workplaces have placed me in situations with not so favorable people. Again, I have despite all these obtained promotions and raises because I believe in working hard no matter what. But, until now  I knew the past places were not permanent. Maybe it has to do with my current more stable family/home life, but I know that where I am could be my permanent place. Especially with the empowerment tools that HACE has provided.


Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Taco Lovers Unite! #TacoGear


::Momma Disclosure:: This is a compensated post. All opinions expressed are true and my own. 


When I was first asked to review shirts about tacos, I knew I couldn't say no. Then I saw the Jesus Loves Tacos shirt on the Taco Gear website, and I was absolutely sure I couldn't say no. Plus there is one thing I love more than tacos and that is working with young Texas entrepreneurs. Supporting them and their pursuit of what they love.  Oh, and did I mention tacos? 

Side story, my dad's name is Jesus and yes, he really does love tacos. But, that's not why I wanted this shirt, or maybe, just a bit. He will probably think this shirt is about him. 

Gerald reached out to me and all I could think was I must go eat Tacos and I must bring Ariana of 3twentysix along. And, so we did. We both selected our favorite shirt from the Taco Gear website and then waited anxiously for them to arrive.  

::A little about Gerald and his story::

Photo Credit: Dustin Ashcraft

 Gerald, what is the name of your company and the creative behind it all?- 

"Taco Gear is the name of my company. We create taco apparel for taco lovers!

I've been a graphic designer for the last 10 years and a taco lover for life, working with businesses agencies and startups, creating and developing brands, advertisements and more.

My experience over the last 10 years has given me the ability to launch my own clothing/apparel line. This is something I have wanted to do for a very long time, and I am thrilled to have finally had the opportunity."



What was the driving force behind your brand?-

"I always knew I wanted to start my own business (apparel mostly), but never really knew what kind or what style. I've always collected and worn all types of t-shirts and appreciated the unique designs they had. I knew the market was flooded with so many companies selling their own graphic tees, so that was never really in my mind as something I would want to jump into. 

When I say I am a taco lover, I really mean it. Like many I know, I can and do eat tacos almost every day for breakfast lunch and dinner, and I usually do. 

One day, I was looking for a taco t-shirt. I wanted something simple that was designed well. I remember thinking, 

"I'm sure there's something cool out there that someone has created." 

It's so easy in today's market to launch a shirt design or online e-commerce business. I was very surprised to find that there were not very many options out there. The few options I found were mostly overdone jokes or badly designed. 

Then it hit me like a ton of bricks! I should design my own! My experience as a designer and lifelong taco lover have given me every single tool I need to launch my own taco apparel company.

I knew when I started, that I wanted to focus on taco related apparel only. The thought of Mexican / Spanish culture designs did cross my mind, but I knew there were already companies out there designing some amazing apparel in this area. So the decision to focus on tacos only, became even easier, and it's been so much fun!"




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Finally, what inspires you most and allows you to be creative?-
"Creativity can come from anywhere and at anytime, at least for me. I can be inspired to create a new design or slogan from anything really. It's because of this that I always write everything down. To quote Field Notes,
 "I'm not writing it down to remember it later, I'm writing it down to remember it now."
 As far as where I do most of my designing and creating, it's usually at a large desk in our living room either watching tv (listening really), or listening to music."


Do you want to follow, shop or just say hello?

Anyone is free to contact me via my social media networks or email me at gerald@tacocreative.com
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Also, could not forget, big thanks to my wild child and our blogger assistant for this collab, Cam. 
She loves tacos too. 



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Friday, July 15, 2016

::5 Tips for a Stay-at-Home Mama:: Guest Blogger

Today on the blog we have Bailey of Everyday with Bay! Enjoy.
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I am a stay-at-home mama, it's my dream job! I sit on the couch all day while my sweet little innocent children play independently in their own rooms! They make their own breakfast, wipe their own hineys, kiss their own boo-boos. You get it, it's the perfect job! It's glamorous, it's easy and I'm a big fat liar!

Being a mama is hard and all of us mamas know that working outside the home or staying home, it's all hard! I wish I had tips for you working outside the home mamas but I've never experienced that so I'm gonna shed some of my stay-at-home mama light on you! I've been a SAHM for over 4 years now, that means for 4 years now my main source of conversation has been baby talk or toddler babble and I pretty much haven't been to the bathroom alone in 4 years either! So I thought about some of the ways I make my days go smoother, tips that have helped me keep sane, and things that just make me feel normal in my days of being a stay at home mama with demanding little people!


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1. ALWAYS have your coffee on a self-timer so that's it's ready before your kids are up!

This may sound silly but there is nothing worse than waking up to a baby covered in poop, a screaming child because we're out of cereal, and one who tried to independently pour her own milk because she's 4 now which means she can do anything which resulted in milk all over the floor that your dog is now licking up and flicking on your cabinets. Now imagine all of this going down with a hot cup of coffee already in hand or imagine it without....yah I can handle a lot more with coffee in my life!! So coffee self-timer for the win y'all! Seriously if your's doesn't do this, change that and get one! I have this one!

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2. Don't stay in your pajamas all day/everyday

Okay, okay stop freaking out! I said all day/everyday! Don't get me wrong I loveeeeee, like double love my pajamas but man there is something about putting on real yoga pants (these are my fav) & a tank that just makes me feel a lbittle more put together and like I'm actually doing something with my life! I sometimes put shoes on inside the house just to feel like I'm real or that I'm going somewhere when in reality I hardly ever leave the house with all 3 alone! #hotmessexpress

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3. Go get some fresh air!

Take your kids outside to play or for a walk, it's magical! You will be surprised how much better you feel & how much their little imaginations start opening up when you just remove them from everything and explore outside! 

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4. Find playdates/friends (for you & them) 

Everyone is always like it's so important for your kids to get social interaction with other kids...yea it is but my goodness I think moms need it more! Kids are entertained with a box, we as moms are not, so find some friends and have them over, join a MOPS group, do something with other adults/kids for the sake of you AND your children! I have friends that have kids and some that don't and I love them all dearly! Having ones with kids is nice because all of our crazies can play together while we talk about how
insanemuch we love them, while the ones without kids aren't totally fed up with their own kids so they entertain mine with new things that I don't do which is totally nice to get a little break in that way! 

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5. Soak it in & breathe! 

Some days are just flat out disastrous. Everyone cries, everyone throws fits, everyone loses their temper, everyone yells...I'm talking about you mama! It's okay! That's one of the best parts about being a mama, is you have children who love you unconditionally. They don't care that you break down, that you haven't worn makeup in 14 days, that your hair hasn't been washed in a week or that you just need a moment to regroup! They think you are the perfect mama, and you are! So in those moments, breathe & love them harder! Remember these days because they will be gone before you know it! 

What tips do you have for making your day go smooth? I'd love to hear them!!


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More about Bailey:


Hey Y’all! I’m Bailey! I am a blessed wife, to my fabulous husband Matt and stay at home mom to three littles, Greleigh, Kaige & Huxx! I am a small town Texas girl heading to the big city. I grew up in a town of 365 people so really anything is “big city” to me! We are chaos everywhere we go with 3 little 4 and under & I love it! I am a nurse, turned realtor, turned just stay-at-home and raise my babies kind of girl! This blog is to share our everyday life and things we love! Hope you stay awhile & lets be friends!

You can find her on her BLOG, FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM & PINTEREST. 

Thursday, July 14, 2016

::Helping Loved Ones Cope with Tragedy:: #HealOrlando

::momma disclosure:: informational post, content provided by Edelman communications. 


We realize that all of the events happening in the U.S. are difficult to speak about and to share. In an effort to actively support those affected in Orlando, a new LGBTQ Alliance which launched a support website HealOrlando.org to offer help to the surrounding communities and resources for those affected by the tragedy at Pulse.

Please help spread the word. The Alliance and the website were announced a few weeks back and a full media statement is below with founding partners.

To ensure that the community has the support needed after the tragedy, also helping is  Dr. David Baker Hargrove, President/CEO of Two Spirit Health Services (a local non-profit in Orlando), who can provide guidance about the Pulse Tragedy, providing you with on-the-ground insights/tips for healthy ways both gay and straight Americans can mentally and emotionally process this horrible event, whether it’s now, two months from now, or two years from now. Dr. David provided mental health support to the FDNY and NYPD at World Trade Center Ground Zero following the September 11th terrorist attacks and brings 21 years of experience to this arena, providing you with expert insights during these tough times.  

Two Spirits has offered their services to the community, already helping hundreds of people who have been struggling in the immediate aftermath of the shooting - a number that we would anticipate actually increase as the shock wears off and other emotions, such as fear, anger and vulnerability begin to set in. More importantly, there is still a very serious on-the-ground need for counseling services who can be available to those who need them most, even if it’s traveling to a victims’ home or place of worship.
  
  
**MEDIA ADVISORY **

Orlando, Florida, June 18, 2016 - In the hours after the tragic Pulse nightclub attack of June 12th, 2016, LGBTQ leaders in Orlando came together to form The LGBTQ Alliance.  The LGBTQ Alliance is unified in support of the LGBTQ community and Hispanic communities and the City of Orlando. The Alliance grieves with the parents, partners, siblings, children and friends who lost their loved ones.

In a spirit of unity and recovery, the LGBTQ Alliance created The HealOrlando Project to help survivors and victims’ families get the help they need.

By visiting HealOrlando.org, community members can seek necessary resources or offer their assistance.
The LGBTQ Alliance and the HealOrlando Project will be formally announced this evening at the Orlando City Soccer game starting at 7:30 pm EST, at the Orlando Citrus Bowl.

The LGBTQ Alliance comes together with support from the below:


                                                                                                               

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**ANUNCIO A LOS MEDIOS **

Orlando (Florida), 18 de junio de 2016 – Tras el ataque en la discoteca Pulse el pasado 12 de junio, los líderes de la comunidad LGBTQ se han unido para formar la Alianza LGBTQ, para ofrecer apoyo a las comunidades hispana yLGBTQ, y a la ciudad de Orlando. Esta coalición se une al duelo de padres, parejas, hermanos, hijos y amigos por la pérdida de sus seres queridos. En el espíritu de unidad y recuperación, la Alianza LGBTQ lanza hoy el ProyectoHealOrlando, con el fin de que sobrevivientes y familiares de las víctimas reciban la ayuda necesaria.

Al visitar HealOrlando.org, la comunidad tendrá acceso a diferentes recursos y también podrá ofrecer su ayuda. La Alianza LGBTQ y el Proyecto HealOrlando serán anunciados formalmente esta noche durante el partido de fútbol entre Orlando City y San Jose Earthquakes en el estadio Citrus Bowl a las 7:3O p.m (hora estándar del este).

La Alianza LGBTQ está conformada por las siguientes organizaciones:



Wednesday, July 6, 2016

::Top Wins and Challenges of being a Working Momma:: #WorkWardrobeSeries

::This post is written in collaboration with Val of  Val Around Town and her Work Wardrobe Series:: 




Summer is in full-effect for us in the Gomez home. Things just seem so laid back and we have been out of town quite a bit traveling and road-tripping as much as we can! More on that tomorrow. With that also comes a more laid back atmosphere at work. We have a much more casual and laid back wardrobe. We are currently allowed to wear jeans and t-shirts, all within good taste. I am so used to wearing more business casual clothes that I often forget about the casual wardrobe days at work but fully appreciate them on our busy Summer mornings. 

Today, I have partnered with Val a fellow Houston Latina Blogger to discuss our top 5 wins as working Momma's as well as our top 5 challenges. Every Momma is different and we should embrace the good and the bad that we learn along the way in this parenting journey. As well as support one another and encourage each other! 

 ::My top 5 wins have been::

1) Creating my own legacy- As a woman who has always seen her Momma work her butt off, all hours of the day and long hard days of the year. I wanted to create that same legacy for my children. My Momma's main goal was for my siblings and I to obtain degrees and have careers where we didn't have to scrub toilets like her. She would tell me in Spanish, "you need to do well in school, or you will end up like me." While she was never ashamed to be a house keeper, and nor have I ever been ashamed of her, she wanted us to work smarter not harder. I hope I am achieving that... 

2) Following my dreams- We all have different goals, when I first started my career I didn't know what direction it would take me in. Almost 18 years later the path of following your dreams, pursing your goals and working towards your passion, has truly paid off for me! I want all working Momma's to know that they to can do anything they set their mind to! 

3) Being Challenged- One of my biggest passions in life is being challenged, I know it sounds crazy, but I love the challenge of being a full-time outside the home employee, a full-time plus Momma, Wife, and Blogger. It's all part of me and I enjoy it! 

4) Making my own money- While my Husband has never been one to care where our income comes from or who is making the money. For me making my own money and having control of that aspect of my life makes me feel good. That's just me. I have had times when I have had to depend on my Husband as the sole-provider, and I didn't mind it, but having my own income, is great! 

5) Being that example for kids-  A job and a career can be in any industry and take on various forms, the most important part for me is the hustle. Being the example that my kids see working hard, every day, no matter what that means to gain income or a better life for them is very important to me. In the same way that I have seen my Momma work hard and hustle for 35 years, I want my kids to see that example in me and be driven to be better! 


In the same sense that I embrace all the good, I have had challenges in my last 6 years as a Working Momma. 


::My top 5 challenges have been::

1) Sacrificing Time-  This is something I try not to complain about, because I know what I signed up for when I decided to be a working Momma. But, that doesn't mean I don't struggle with it. And, I struggled with it more when the kids were little, there were always thought of "missing" something that they may do while I was at work. These days I have learned that my kids do "something" 24/7, and I can't miss it because they will repeat it and show  it to me a million times, so I don't forget it. 

2) Finding a Flexible job- Of course this is probably a struggle for many Momma's, we can't have it all, or can we? It's been a struggle to find a job that truly understands me and is fully flexible with my family schedule, happening and emergencies. But, thinking back every job has been accommodating in the best way possible. For that I am grateful! And, I have learned that no matter what I will find a way to be there with my kids, to help them when needed and to tend to the emergencies as they come! At the end of the day it's up to me to create my own flexibility and establish priorities. 

3) Not having down time- So you may have realized from my tag line that I don't sleep. Again, something I try not to complain about and knew exactly what the boat required when I jumped in it.  I don't have much down time these days; between home, writing, working out and work, down time is virtually non-existent. I do try to create as much down time as possible for myself. It's hard cause I love working and DOING. But, I try to rest when I can!  

4) Having to pay for childcare- Paying for daycare has over the years been hard. It's expensive but in my eyes has been worth it. My kids have had a safe, happy place to learn and meet kids their age. Exposing them to others and to an early educational start has been one of those items that although expensive has it's rewards, I don't regret it. Wish it was cheaper but no regrets! 

5) Making Choices- So, one of the challenges I have had as a working Momma has been that, making the choice to work or not. I tried being home, it worked for all the 7 months that I gave it a good honest go! Then I decided it wasn't for me. Of course then I struggled with leaving my kids, paying for daycare and being "that" working Momma. The choices that I have had to make have been life changing not just for me but for my entire family. It's one of the biggest things about this whole journey making the best and most appropriate choices for my family. 

What are some of your wins and current challenges as a  working Momma? 

Saturday, July 2, 2016

San Antonio we meet again... #SummerRoadtrips







It's been a couple of years since we visited San Antonio with the kids. Since, we were rained out of our camping trip back at the end of May, we decided that weekend to head on over to San Antonio and relax in a fun and dry hotel room! On our last visit, in 2014, we missed out on the River Walk boat Tour because we arrived to late in the day, so that was one of our goals for this short visit. And, since the kids are older we thought the Alamo would be a good learning experience on Memorial Day. It was very much worth it. Santiago loved hearing about the history of the Alamo and how Mexico used to own Texas. I am horrible at History but seeing that Santi loves it, I will need to brush up on it. He retained some of the information and during the week after our visit as we traveled to the Rio Grande Valley he asked me questions about Mexico and who won what. That just shows how much his little 6 year old brain is absorbing. 


We also had a wonderful boat tour it was hot outside but very relaxing. I don't have many pictures from it because I SnapChapped most of it (@realmommaofdos). The San Antonio waterway history with Rio Tours was very informative, the guide was funny and entertaining! The kids took in all the site seeing that the ride has to offer and were pumped to explore the River Walk some more. We had a fun caricature drawn of them by a local artist and then had some ice cream and food before heading back home. I think like many other cities, it will take several trips before we have visited all the great sites in San Antonio, just recently someone recommended I visit the missions. I have never been. Maybe next Spring we can return to San Antonio... in the mean time, hasta pronto!  






Thank you San Antonio...as my Hubby would say.. It's been real!