Count your Blessings:
I am constantly reminded that instead of complaining and thinking that I am lacking to remember that I am more than Blessed. With these Blessings I am also reminded that sometimes God tell us “NO” and that sometimes there is an ABUNDANT “YES” to follow.
As a Wife:
This week I am fully reminded of being a [Proverbs 31 Wife] being a trustworthy and supportive wife.
Proverbs 31: 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
My husband aside from being the provider in our home, is also the organizer, more importantly the “BILL” organizer. I come home, clean and take care of the baby. He comes home, cooks and does bills. And though at times I complain that something is lacking, it’s when he is gone that I realize, yes he really does do a good job. I hate myself then cause I have been a nag-y wife, completely unfair to him. But, I am being honest and accept that he is the best at what and all that he does! I thank GOD for him and his skills and now that he is busy with his Internship. I don’t want to be a bother, I don’t want to hinder him and I don’t want to be the cause of him NOT focusing on what he NEEDS to be doing right now. This is his time to shine and move forward and for that I want to be supportive. So, I am reminded, that my husband CAN trust me and that I want to GREATLY enrich his life! Always.
Proverbs 31: 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.
Part of being supportive is to have inner as well as outer strength and dignity, above all dignity while your husband is not present. I like to think that the way I carry myself in person is the exact way that I carry myself online. Always being mindful of those around me BUT more importantly mindful of my husband and my son, always respecting them and never producing any type of situation that will bring them shame. I hope this is true. I pray that it is. As for laughing without fear of the future, just as my husband trusts me, I trust him and know that he will never lead us to a place where we are not together in God or where we are forced to face struggle, because we struggle already added stress is not needed.
Proverbs 31: 26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
I try. I hope it's true. I am sure I have many a critics who can say otherwise, but I am me and God has directed me.
Proverbs 31: 27 She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.
Again, I try and do my best to be a productive Wife and Mother.
As a Mother:
Knowing that most everyone these days is simply busy and has a full life even when they stay at home, I thought Santiago would go to a daycare. I quickly convinced myself that he would benefit from this type of environment because he could “meet” other babies and “learn” new things daily. But, that idea soon faded because the money just wasn’t there. The 8 almost 10 week leave came and went faster than expected and we were faced with having to figure out what to do. I honestly didn’t know who would be able to watch him without it being a problem with their, own family obligations. Well, when we presented the situation to my Mother-in-Law who due to serious back problems is a stay at home wife, she offered to take care of Santiago, despite her obligations and back pains! I knew that soon carrying my Chunk would not be an easy task and honestly was scared to ask her or anyone for that matter. I just don’t like feeling like we always ask others for too much and I dislike being a burden and God forbid for my son to be a burden. But, THANKFULLY, even before we asked, she offered. I loved that. That took a HUGE load off of us. We were quickly relieved! Now Santiago has a perfect place to not only “meet” his family but bond with them as well and “learn” about family and more importantly about Love. This new situation promises to be a good one, Ricardo’s mom is at home and at times feels sick but I like to think that Santiago lifts her spirits and gives her a Blessed purpose and reason to dismiss her back aches even if it’s for 8 hours a day, the same way he does for me. In return we are Blessed with a safe and home like environment for Santiago to be cared for surrounded by people who genuinely love him.
Proverbs 17:6 (New Living Translation) 6 Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged, parents are the pride of their children.
As a Sister/Friend/Daughter/Employee:
I can’t express how much I appreciate the support that everyone is giving me. I don’t think people realize that simple acts or words result in immense support. People like my Sister Jess and Sister-in-law Ale, who just by showing LOVE to my son when they are around him give me a HUGE sense of support. There are many people who give support in many ways, knowing that someone loves your son and that he is wanted and accepted is something that can easily be taken for granted. Children are disregarded, abused and hurt every day, but to know that there are people in his life who would defend him at any cost allows me to feel at ease.
Deuteronomy 11:27 (New Living Translation) 27 You will be blessed if you obey the commands of the Lord your God that I am giving you today.
Ephesians 4: 32 (New Living Translation) 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
My friends, those of you like Casey and Yvonne, who know me and everything that is going on right now, the emotions the struggles, who I know are there for me, even if we don’t see each other every day or talk on the phone or even email at times, but to know that you are there for me, is a GREAT feeling of support. We just know. Sharing with them via email even if there is no answer, through my Blog cause I KNOW they read it [Hahahaha.], and just knowing that if I have a total melt down at 2 am I can cry into their voicemails [They should answer within 48 hours, right?! Hahaha. Smiles worriedly. Haha.]. Regardless of if they answer, write back or comment, I know them, they are my dear sisters in Christ and they are sure to be there for me as I am always there for them. Always. Even if it's at distance, I never expect for anyone to totally drop what they are doing for me..it's almost impossible these days...and they both have little ones to care for just like me and I know that if I can't drop it all for them, they will understand me. They will. They do.
Proverbs 18:24 (New International Version) A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 17:17 (New International Version) A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.
What can I say about my own Mother; who would walk on fire for me, my siblings and her grandchildren, Olin and Santiago. Her concerns, her always checking on us, her rides to work, her bathing Santiago even though she’s tired but because I’m tired, her constant out pour of Love and Support is IMMENSE! This Life, My Life, would be so hard to deal with and manage without her. She is always there on the sidelines waiting to be tagged in! I love her.
Psalm 139:13 (New Living Translation) You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother's womb.
Colossians 3:20 (New Living Translation) 20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord.
I often complain about “work”, who doesn’t? But, to sit back and analyze it, I have the perfect job and work environment. It’s a small office of 4 people. In the end we have created a family. My job is very flexible and my Director very understanding. The women that I work with are also a bit of the above; wives, daughters, friends, employees, moms therefore we all try to be supportive, encouraging, motivating and uplifting. The office environment that we have created is a perfect one to share and be involved in each other’s lives. In the past I have made great and wonderful lasting friendships through my jobs but I have never had an entire department on my side and THAT makes a huge difference in situations like mine!
I AM JUST TOTALLY BLESSED at this point in my life and God is working on me inside and out.
Luke 6:31 (New International Version) 31Do to others as you would have them do to you.
2 Corinthians 5:9 (The Message) Cheerfully pleasing God is the main thing, and that's what we aim to do, regardless of our conditions.
I am praying that we can see Ricardo in 2 weekends!!! Please pray for us. It will be a quick Memorial Day weekend trip but I can't wait to see him and I know he can't wait to see us...It will be AWESOME to see Santiago’s reaction! The last 2 days have been different but we, I , am getting adjusted and starting my own little routine. This is definitely a journey...a ride and an amazing experience. I have never been on my own this way... my husband truly is my rock!